No one is born gay

Since I was a child – I knew I was different – I knew I was “gay.” Therefore, I must have been born that way; I was born “gay.” These same words have been thought and spoken by millions of men and women; and, although there is not one piece of scientific evidence which definitively points to a genetic or any other biological component to homosexuality, most people still believe it. Actually, from my own experiences, the opposite is really proven all the time, as many gay men and women oftentimes share similar childhood backgrounds. For the most part, I found that homosexuals were deeply injured people; suffering greatly from the past that was out of their control: abuse, alienation, neglect, feelings of inadequacy and loneliness are common memories for many homosexuals. Yet, unlike most people, these emotions affected us in a profound way and later created the circumstances by which we would accept “gay” as the missing piece we had always searched for.

Only, God did not create anyone “gay.” His creation followed “natural law.” From the spiraling of the galaxies, to the revolution of the planets around our Sun; all reflected in the symbiosis of animal and plant kingdoms right down to the smallest atoms; the world was made to function in harmony. Even before the advent of Man, fossil remains have shown that life flourished on the Earth. Everything was self-sustaining. According to “The Catechism of the Catholic Church:”
Because God creates through wisdom, his creation is ordered: “You have arranged all things by measure and number and weight.” The universe, created in and by the eternal Word, the “image of the invisible God,” is destined for and addressed to man, himself created in the “image of God” and called to a personal relationship with God. Our human understanding, which shares in the light of the divine intellect, can understand what God tells us by means of his creation…Because creation comes forth from God’s goodness, it shares in that goodness – “And God saw that it was good…very good”- for God willed creation as a gift addressed to man, an inheritance destined for and entrusted to him.
With the Fall, came the introduction of disorder. Man lapsed into a cycle of removing himself from the rules of Nature: pain, sorrow, and anguish entered human existence. Children were born, and the innocence of what once was quickly disappeared. Man had distanced himself from God. Perfection was no longer an in-born quality. Now, we are subject to our hungers and lusts. How we control them determines just how close we can return to that pre-Tree-of-Knowledge state. As a consequence, every “gay” child should know that he or she was not born different, or “gay:” there is no third sex and there is no orientation besides heterosexual; therefore, everyone, including those who later “come-out” as “gay,” were born either male or female – and heterosexual. Now, along the way, usually beginning in childhood, that biological Truth becomes chipped away in our psyche. For instance, typically in a boy who later becomes a “gay” man, there is a serious disconnect with the father figure resulting in an intense awareness of hostility and rejection. At this point – the first instances of same-sex attraction enter the mind, but we can neither understand nor process them; later, usually after experiencing further rejection – in this case, from peers, we begin to homoeroticize the emotional loss and that estrangement from male love twists into something sexual; and – eventually, we begin to accept them.



But what are we accepting? Again, in “The Catechism,” it states: “For if man exists it is because God has created him through love, and through love continues to hold him in existence.” The Creation of man by God was an act of love; now, would that same God create certain men with a “strong tendency ordered toward an intrinsic moral evil:” or an inclination that “must be seen as an objective disorder?” No God of love did that. But, even if you are not a Catholic or a Christian, even if you are an aesthete – can you accept that a mindless Nature predestined that “gay” men would ultimately be unable to express physically their feelings of “love” for another man; because, the fact remains: “gay” men are 140X more at risk of contracting HIV or syphilis than heterosexual men; in comparison, according to the American Cancer Society, men who smoke are “only” 23X more likely to contract lung cancer than non-smokers; just in the United States alone, were over 300,000 “gay” men, who died of AIDS, simply born to die? Or, perhaps, have things gone incredibly wrong: that we have been deceived; that we have been tricked into believing we are “gay?”