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Homosexuality is a relationship problem

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English: A young woman and man embracing while outdoors. (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) From Isolation to Relationship to Intimacy by Alan Medinger Homosexuality is a relationship problem. Our relationship with Jesus Christ comes first in our healing, but close behind it comes our need to learn to relate to other same-sex people in healthy ways. We must identify the obstacles that have kept us from healthy relationships, and learn to distinguish between friendships and intimate relationships. Then we must realize how we need them both. If Dr. Bill Consiglio is right, and homosexuality often starts with low self-esteem, then it is likely that many homosexual people, because they believe there is little about them that is either interesting or desirable to others, are likely to be isolated people . If Elizabeth Moberly is right and a critical element in the development of homosexuality is withdrawal from the same-sex parent -- what she calls defensive detachment -- then many homos...

What Caused Me to Have SSA? Part 2 – The Role of Fathers and Mothers

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Image via Wikipedia The Role of Fathers and Mothers Introduction Nature?  Nurture?  The debate about what causes same-sex attractions in males is endless – and so far, unresolved.  This much is true:   we simply do  not  know for certain what causes it! In the last issue of  “Counseling Insights” , I discussed how “sensitivity” seems to play an important role – one that may have existed from birth (i.e., “nature”).  While there is absolutely no evidence of a “gay gene” that automatically makes males develop same-sex attractions ( SSA ), many such males express that they  “have always been extra sensitive”  (i.e., extra sensitive to physical aggression, to verbal critique from authority figures, and to the creative senses).  But is there a  developmental  (i.e., “nurture”) explanation of why young males might become extra sensitive?  Those who ascribe to “psychoanalytic theories” believe there is. Discussion By ...