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Does it Really Matter? Introduction Since there is no definitive explanation of how any male  actually  develops same-sex attractions ( SSA ), does it even matter  how these attractions originated?  For example, does a sugar diabetic actually need to know how his digestive system works, in order to learn what not to eat – if he wants to stay healthy?  So, does it  really   matter what caused your same-sex  attractions ? Well – no. And, yes. It is  not  essential for a man to know what caused his ssa in order for him to live a life of sexual purity and peace.  What  is  essential is that the ssa man understand that it truly is possible to have a life of sexual purity and peace – and how he can obtain that! Well, then, why  does  it matter what he thinks caused his ssa?  Because what he  thinks  caused his ssa will either help his advancement – or impair it. Discussion How His Understanding of the “ Cause ” Can  Hurt  His Advancement A well-meaning – but under-informed – counselor (o

Image via Wikipedia Image via Wikipedia Image via Wikipedia The Role of Abuse Introduction “I did not ask for this … I did not want this … I suffered from this.” Those are the sentiments of every male who has ever been sexual abused, molested or raped. Those were my words. In today’s issue of  “Counseling Insights”  we continue the six-part series on the factors which may contribute to males developing same-sex attractions ( SSA ).  Please remember that  we simply do not know what causes ssa in males , but there are certain factors which commonly appear.  It is often the case –  but clearly not always  – that males who experience ongoing ssa had been abused somewhere in their past: sexually, physically, verbally/emotionally, and/or spiritually.  Here’s a review of each. Discussion Sexual abuse .  My experience is not unique.  In a 2006 study by Dickson & Byrd, 49% of the males with ssa reported having been sexually abused – compared to only 2% for the males who had  opposite -sex

Image via Wikipedia Being sexually attracted to the same sex is one of the most difficult struggles a person can experience. But don’t allow the presence of same-sex attractions mislead you into thinking that you are “gay.” Same-sex attractions are a sign of a deep hunger and a profound confusion within you. While biological predispositions may contribute to any unwanted struggle, same-sex attractions are probably not something you were born with nor did you choose to have them. There are other reasons you are sexually attracted to men. It is more likely that you are confused by significant relationships and events in your life (some of which you may not even be aware of) that have caused you to have sexual attractions for men. We know from listening to countless stories that same-sex attractions are largely the result of an unmet hunger (perceived or real) for love, connection, and identification with the same sex, particularly with one’s father or a close father figure. This h

Image via Wikipedia Written by Dr. David Kyle Foster   Fag! Queer! Imagine what words like that do to a young boy.   What's worse, such words are usually aimed at the boy who is in a desperate search for belonging within his gender group - someone who is in dire need of affirmation and approval from the very boys who are taunting him. Homosexual feelings are an emotional torture beyond understanding for those who have never experienced them to any significant degree. "I didn't ask to feel what I'm feeling," he says to himself. "I can't help it if I'm sensitive and awkward in the (often unhealthy) gender roles that are portrayed around me," he reasons. "Who can set me free form this sin and death?" he finally screams. Many turn to God for help, in bed late at night, face teaming with tears. "God, why did you make me this way?" "God, I don't want to live if this is how it's going to be!" Screaming out t