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Six most offensive things about gay parenting

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After doing the panel discussion on al-Jazeera last night, and coming across countless more articles about same-sex parenting today, I'm a little tired of being diplomatic. Maybe there are moments when a bit of bluntness is appropriate. In a best case scenario, there is a widow who comes out of the closet after her husband dies, and then gets help from a lesbian lover while raising her children. She makes sure not to trample on their father's memory, and doesn't force them to call her new lover "Mom." In that one rare, specific, unintentional case, yes, same-sex parenting is okay. Every other scenario involving a same-sex couple with exclusive custody of small children is adult misconduct at best or a crime against humanity at worst. If it happened because of divorce, then the gay parent and a former heterosexual lover failed to resolve their differences and didn't stay together for the children. The gay parent, who's now a single parent because the op

The true story of children not happy with gay parents

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You're trusting these folks to say whether kids should have moms and dads? I've been getting some of the updates from New Mexico about the SOC (same-old-crap) peddled by purveyors of same-sex parenting . It goes like this: A big, powerful, well-funded association with a fancy, imposing name issues a declaration on their "endorsement of same-sex parenting." http://www.lifesitenews.com/ news/new-mexico-groups- promote-same-sex-marriage-as- a-benefit-to-kids-ignoring-t? utm_source=LifeSiteNews.com+ Daily+Newsletter&utm_campaign= 6269d2388a-LifeSiteNews_com_ US_Headlines_06_19_2013&utm_ medium=email&utm_term=0_ 0caba610ac-6269d2388a- 397522465 Remember that the gay marriage cases before the Supreme Court last March saw amicus briefs submitted by athletes, corporations, and random Republicans who endorsed this as if they had any relevance in deciding something so heavy: Do children have a right to a mom and dad? Can we just take away their mom or dad

Not all children raised by gay parents support gay marriage: I should know, I’m one of them

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June 3, 2013 ( thePublicDiscourse ) - During the oral arguments about Proposition 8 , Justice Anthony Kennedy referred to children being raised by same-sex couples. Since I was one of those children—from ages 2-19, I was  raised by a lesbian mother with the help of her partner —I was curious to see what he would say. I also eagerly anticipated what he would say because I had taken great professional and social risk to file an amicus brief with Doug Mainwaring ( who is gay and opposes gay marriage ), in which we explained that children deeply feel the loss of a father or mother, no matter how much we love our gay parents or how much they love us. Children feel the loss keenly because they are powerless to stop the decision to deprive them of a father or mother, and the absence of a male or female parent will likely be irreversible for them. Over the last year I’ve been in frequent contact with adults who were raised by parents in same-sex partnerships. They are terrified of sp

Study identifies gender specific effects in homosexual households

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Gay Couple with child (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) There is a new and significant piece of evidence in the social science debate about gay parenting and the unique contributions that mothers and fathers make to their children’s flourishing. A study published last month in the journal Review of the Economics of the Household—analyzing data from a very large, population-based sample—reveals that the children of gay and lesbian couples are only about 65 percent as likely to have graduated from high school as the children of married, opposite-sex couples. And gender matters, too: girls are more apt to struggle than boys, with daughters of gay parents displaying dramatically low graduation rates. Unlike US-based studies, this one evaluates a 20 percent sample of the Canadian census , where same-sex couples have had access to all taxation and government benefits since 1997 and to marriage since 2005. While in the US Census same-sex households have to be guessed at based on the gender an

The APA are wrong on Homosexuality and Kids

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Gay Couple with child (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) In 2005, the APA declared—in a statement authored by a single activist psychologist—that: …there is no evidence to suggest that…psychosocial development among children of  lesbian women  and gay men is compromised relative to that among offspring of heterosexual parents. Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents. Prof. Marks Regnerus demonstrates that all of the studies on which this statement is based are significantly flawed. For instance, none of the 59 studies focused on racial or ethnic minorities , and few studied any such minorities at all. Furthermore, samples were consistently skewed toward economically and socially privileged families. As Marks puts it: “By their own reports, social researchers examining same-sex parenting have repeatedly selected small, non-representative, homogenous samples of privileged