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Image via Wikipedia The Role of Puberty Introduction Here’s an obvious fact for males :  puberty dramatically changes us!  If being born with extra “sensitivity” is arguably the most important factor in what initially creates a male’s same-sex  attractions  (SSA) [refer to my Part 1 of this series], then what happens in puberty may “pour the cement” for the foundation of a man’s future sexual identity and addiction.  Let’s see how. Discussion Brain and Body Development.  Research by psychoanalyst Sander Breiner, M.D., [cited in NARTH Bulletin; Vol 15, No 2; Winter 2007] reports that when a pubescent male experiences doubts about his sexual attractions , body appearance, and sexual capacities, these stressors may actually  harm his brain development .  Many experts agree that the brain is in a state of constant change during puberty.  According to Goldman-Rakic & colleagues in their handbook on the neurobiology of cognitive development, certain brain regions can become dysfunctio

Image via Wikipedia Image via Wikipedia The physical attractions you feel for men are real and, obviously at times, quite strong. It’s good that you are troubled by them. Your discontent is a sign that you have not accepted an identity as a “gay” man. It’s a sign that your heart is open to moving in a godly direction. Generally, it’s a mistake to suppress your same-sex attractions in terms of trying to pretend they don’t exist. Driving the attractions underground will make them grow stronger. God wants us to be honest about ourselves ( Psalm 51:6 ). It’s better to admit their presence and then try to understand and confront them. Although some would have you believe there is a substantial body of scientific research connecting same-sex attractions to a biological or genetic cause, there is no credible evidence to support such a claim. If biological and genetic factors do exist, they fall under the same category as a “predisposition” to other biblically unjustifiable or self-destructiv

Image via Wikipedia "Homosexuality & the Bible" booklet (Photo credit: Fellowship of Reconciliation ) Image via Wikipedia Being sexually attracted to the same sex is one of the most difficult struggles a person can experience. But don’t allow the presence of same-sex attractions mislead you into thinking that you are “gay.” Same-sex attractions are a sign of a deep hunger and a profound confusion within you. While biological predispositions may contribute to any unwanted struggle, same-sex attractions are probably not something you were born with nor did you choose to have them. There are other reasons you are sexually attracted to men. It is more likely that you are confused by significant relationships and events in your life (some of which you may not even be aware of) that have caused you to have sexual attractions for men. We know from listening to countless stories that same-sex attractions are largely the result of an unmet hunger (perceived or real) for lov

Image via Wikipedia Image via Wikipedia Image via Wikipedia Generally, most people  don’t  start out choosing to feel sexual attraction for persons of the same sex. 1 This doesn’t necessarily mean that people are born with these desires. Instead, same- gender attractions usually develop out of a combination of factors in a person’s background, often without a person being aware of when and why the desires came about. Many studies and personal accounts suggest that same-gender sexual attractions often emerge in a context where children feel unaccepted by their same-sex parent. Whether it’s real or perceived, those who eventually feel sexual attractions for the same gender didn’t feel loved by or identify with their same-gender parent. What also frequently shows up in their stories are childhood sexual experiences with the same gender where they felt a strong yet rare sense of love. When these factors are combined, they can confuse emotionally starved children or adolescents about the

Image via Wikipedia People on both sides of the issue often misunderstand the sin of homosexuality. In trying to argue that there are acceptable types of homosexual relationships , some try to define the sin of homosexuality by limiting it to specific forms of sexual behavior between those of the same gender such as pederasty ( sex between men and boys). Defining unhealthy same-sex behavior in this manner, however, does not reflect the spirit or language of the Bible. On the other side of the issue are those who fail to recognize the difference between experiencing same-sex attractions and choosing to pursue homosexual lust and/or behavior. Generally speaking, those who feel same-sex attraction experience desires that are not initially chosen. They are  conditioned.  The attractions usually stem from early influences and are developed outside of a person’s conscious awareness. Feeling sexual desires for the same gender is not the sin of homosexuality.  Romans 1:26-27  elaborates:

Image via Wikipedia The physical attractions you feel for men are real and, obviously at times, quite strong. It’s good that you are troubled by them. Your discontent is a sign that you have not accepted an identity as a “gay” man. It’s a sign that your heart is open to moving in a godly direction. Generally, it’s a mistake to suppress your same-sex attractions in terms of trying to pretend they don’t exist. Driving the attractions underground will make them grow stronger. God wants us to be honest about ourselves ( Psalm 51:6 ). It’s better to admit their presence and then try to understand and confront them. Although some would have you believe there is a substantial body of scientific research connecting same-sex attractions to a biological or genetic cause, there is no credible evidence to support such a claim. If biological and genetic factors do exist, they fall under the same category as a “predisposition” to other biblically unjustifiable or self-destructive tendencies (violen

Image via Wikipedia Being sexually attracted to the same sex is one of the most difficult struggles a person can experience. But don’t allow the presence of same-sex attractions mislead you into thinking that you are “gay.” Same-sex attractions are a sign of a deep hunger and a profound confusion within you. While biological predispositions may contribute to any unwanted struggle, same-sex attractions are probably not something you were born with nor did you choose to have them. There are other reasons you are sexually attracted to men. It is more likely that you are confused by significant relationships and events in your life (some of which you may not even be aware of) that have caused you to have sexual attractions for men. We know from listening to countless stories that same-sex attractions are largely the result of an unmet hunger (perceived or real) for love, connection, and identification with the same sex, particularly with one’s father or a close father figure. This h

Image via Wikipedia Most people don’t sexualize  their awareness of the beauty of children or of other people of the same sex . But for reasons that aren’t entirely understood, the sexual longings of some people are drawn towards persons of the same sex or towards children. This desire is clearly not a natural expression of the mating instinct, as it can’t result in reproduction, and medical and psychological evidence shows that people who struggle with such desires do so for a constellation of physical, environmental, and cultural reasons. 1  For such people, these desires feel natural, even though they are clearly unnatural in terms of instinctive purpose and reproductive design. However, the fact that the desires feel natural is usually no comfort to people who experience them, but is the source of deep feelings of confusion, shame, and guilt.  This tendency to sexualize feelings towards children or people of the same sex is an aspect of fallen human nature in a world tainted by s